letters to his son, 1750-第16章
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he best。 Far； therefore； from being discouraged by what you still want； what you already have should encourage you to attempt； and convince you that by attempting you will inevitably obtain it。 The difficulties which you have surmounted were much greater than any you have now to encounter。 Till very lately； your way has been only through thorns and briars； the few that now remain are mixed with roses。 Pleasure is now the principal remaining part of your education。 It will soften and polish your manners； it will make you pursue and at last overtake the GRACES。 Pleasure is necessarily reciprocal； no one feels； who does not at the same time give it。 To be pleased one must please。 What pleases you in others； will in general please them in you。 Paris is indisputably the seat of the GRACES； they will even court you； if you are not too coy。 Frequent and observe the best companies there； and you will soon be naturalized among them； you will soon find how particularly attentive they are to the correctness and elegance of their language； and to the graces of their enunciation： they would even call the understanding of a man in question； who should neglect or not know the infinite advantages arising from them。 'Narrer； reciter； declamer bien'； are serious studies among them； and well deserve to be so everywhere。 The conversations； even among the women； frequently turn upon the elegancies and minutest delicacies of the French language。 An 'enjouement'； a gallant turn； prevails in all their companies； to women； with whom they neither are； nor pretend to be； in love； but should you （as may very possibly happen） fall really in love there with some woman of fashion and sense （for I do not suppose you capable of falling in love with a strumpet）； and that your rival； without half your parts or knowledge； should get the better of you； merely by dint of manners； 'enjouement； badinage'； etc。； how would you regret not having sufficiently attended to those accomplishments which you despised as superficial and trifling； but which you would then find of real consequence in the course of the world！ And men； as well as women； are taken by those external graces。 Shut up your books； then； now as a business； and open them only as a pleasure； but let the great book of the world be your serious study； read it over and over； get it by heart； adopt its style； and make it your own。
When I cast up your account as it now stands； I rejoice to see the balance so much in your favor； and that the items per contra are so few； and of such a nature； that they may be very easily cancelled。 By way of debtor and creditor； it stands thus：
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This； my dear friend； is a very true account； and a very encouraging one for you。 A man who owes so little can clear it off in a very little time； and； if he is a prudent man； will； whereas a man who； by long negligence； owes a great deal； despairs of ever being able to pay； and therefore never looks into his account at all。
When you go to Genoa； pray observe carefully all the environs of it； and view them with somebody who can tell you all the situations and operations of the Austrian army； during that famous siege； if it deserves to be called one； for in reality the town never was besieged； nor had the Austrians any one thing necessary for a siege。 If Marquis Centurioni； who was last winter in England； should happen to be there； go to him with my compliments； and he will show you all imaginable civilities。
I could have sent you some letters to Florence； but that I knew Mr。 Mann would be of more use to you than all of them。 Pray make him my compliments。 Cultivate your Italian； while you are at Florence； where it is spoken in its utmost purity； but ill pronounced。
Pray save me the seed of some of the best melons you eat； and put it up dry in paper。 You need not send it me； but Mr。 Harte will bring it in his pocket when he comes over。 I should likewise be glad of some cuttings of the best figs； especially la Pica gentile and the Maltese； but as this is not the season for them； Mr。 Mann will； I dare say； undertake that commission； and send them to me at the proper time by Leghorn。 Adieu。 Endeavor to please others； and divert yourself as much as ever you can； in 'honnete et galant homme'。
P。 S。 I send you the inclosed to deliver to Lord Rochford； upon your arrival at Turin。
LETTER CXVIII。
LONDON； August 6； O。 S。 1750
MY DEAR FRIEND： Since your letter from Sienna； which gave me a very imperfect account both of your illness and your recovery； I have not received one word either from you or Mr。 Harte。 I impute this to the carelessness of the post simply： and the great distance between us at present exposes our letters to those accidents。 But when you come to Paris； from whence the letters arrive here very regularly； I shall insist upon you writing to me constantly once a week； and that upon the same day； for instance； every Thursday； that I may know by what mail to expect your letter。 I shall also require you to be more minute in your account of yourself than you have hitherto been； or than I have required； because of the informations which I receive from time to time from Mr。 Harte。 At Paris you will be out of your time； and must set up for yourself； it is then that I shall be very solicitous to know how you carry on your business。 While Mr。 Harte was your partner； the care was his share； and the profit yours。 But at Paris； if you will have the latter； you must take the former along with it。 It will be quite a new world to you； very different from the little world that you have hitherto seen； and you will have much more to do in it。 You must keep your little accounts constantly every morning； if you would not have them run into confusion； and swell to a bulk that would frighten you from ever looking into them at all。 You must allow some time for learning what you do not know； and some for keeping what you do know； and you must leave a great deal of time for your pleasures； which （I repeat it； again） are now become the most necessary part of your education。 It is by conversations； dinners； suppers； entertainments； etc。； in the best companies； that you must be formed for the world。 'Les manieres les agremens； les graces' cannot be learned by theory； they are only to be got by use among those who have them； and they are now the main object of your life； as they are the necessary steps to your fortune。 A man of the best parts； and the greatest learning； if he does not know the world by his own experience and observation； will be very absurd； and consequently very unwelcome in company。 He may say very good things； but they will probably be so ill… timed； misplaced； or improperly addressed； that he had much better hold his tongue。 Full of his own matter； and uninformed of； or inattentive to； the particular circumstances and situations of the company； he vents it indiscriminately； he puts some people out of countenance； he shocks others； and frightens all； who dread what may come out next。 The most general rule that I can give you for the world； and which your experience will convince you of the truth of； is； Never to give the tone to the company； but to take it from them； and to labor more to put them in conceit with themselves； than to make them admire you。 Those whom you can make like themselves better； will； I promise you； like you very well。
A system…monger； who； without knowing anything of the world by experience； has formed a system； of it in his dusty cell； lays it down； for example； that （from the general nature of mankind） flattery is pleasing。 He will therefore flatter。 But how？ Why； indiscriminately。 And instead of repairing and heightening the piece judiciously； with soft colors and a delicate pencil；with a coarse brush and a great deal of whitewash； he daubs and besmears the piece he means to adorn。 His flatt
