the lily of the valley-第35章

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　　blade　that　has　not　been　fleshed。　Do　not　make　this　mistake。　Such

　　judgments　will　seem　like　censures　to　many　about　you；　who　would

　　sooner　pardon　an　open　rebuke　than　a　secret　wound。　Young　people　are

　　pitiless　because　they　know　nothing　of　life　and　its　difficulties。

　　The　old　critic　is　kind　and　considerate；　the　young　critic　is

　　implacable；　the　one　knows　nothing；　the　other　knows　all。　Moreover；

　　at　the　bottom　of　all　human　actions　there　is　a　labyrinth　of

　　determining　reasons　on　which　God　reserves　for　himself　the　final

　　judgment。　Be　severe　therefore　to　none　but　yourself。



　　Your　future　is　before　you；　but　no　one　in　the　world　can　make　his

　　way　unaided。　Therefore；　make　use　of　my　father's　house；　its　doors

　　are　open　to　you；　the　connections　that　you　will　create　for　yourself

　　under　his　roof　will　serve　you　in　a　hundred　ways。　But　do　not　yield

　　an　inch　of　ground　to　my　mother；　she　will　crush　any　one　who　gives

　　up　to　her；　but　she　will　admire　the　courage　of　whoever　resists　her。

　　She　is　like　iron；　which　if　beaten；　can　be　fused　with　iron；　but

　　when　cold　will　break　everything　less　hard　than　itself。　Cultivate

　　my　mother；　for　if　she　thinks　well　of　you　she　will　introduce　you

　　into　certain　houses　where　you　can　acquire　the　fatal　science　of　the

　　world；　the　art　of　listening；　speaking；　answering；　presenting

　　yourself　to　the　company　and　taking　leave　of　it；　the　precise　use　of

　　language；　the　somethinghow　shall　I　explain　it？which　is　no　more

　　superiority　than　the　coat　is　the　man；　but　without　which　the

　　highest　talent　in　the　world　will　never　be　admitted　within　those

　　portals。



　　I　know　you　well　enough　to　be　quite　sure　I　indulge　no　illusion　when

　　I　imagine　that　I　see　you　as　I　wish　you　to　be；　simple　in　manners；

　　gentle　in　tone；　proud　without　conceit；　respectful　to　the　old；

　　courteous　without　servility；　above　all；　discreet。　Use　your　wit　but

　　never　display　it　for　the　amusement　of　others；　for　be　sure　that　if

　　your　brilliancy　annoys　an　inferior　man；　he　will　retire　from　the

　　field　and　say　of　you　in　a　tone　of　contempt；　〃He　is　very　amusing。〃

　　Let　your　superiority　be　leonine。　Moreover；　do　not　be　always

　　seeking　to　please　others。　I　advise　a　certain　coldness　in　your

　　relations　with　men；　which　may　even　amount　to　indifference；　this

　　will　not　anger　others；　for　all　persons　esteem　those　who　slight

　　them；　and　it　will　win　you　the　favor　of　women；　who　will　respect　you

　　for　the　little　consequence　that　you　attach　to　men。　Never　remain　in

　　company　with　those　who　have　lost　their　reputation；　even　though

　　they　may　not　have　deserved　to　do　so；　for　society　holds　us

　　responsible　for　our　friendships　as　well　as　for　our　enmities。　In

　　this　matter　let　your　judgments　be　slowly　and　maturely　weighed；　but

　　see　that　they　are　irrevocable。　When　the　men　whom　you　have　repulsed

　　justify　the　repulsion；　your　esteem　and　regard　will　be　all　the　more

　　sought　after；　you　have　inspired　the　tacit　respect　which　raises　a

　　man　among　his　peers。　I　behold　you　now　armed　with　a　youth　that

　　pleases；　grace　which　attracts；　and　wisdom　with　which　to　preserve

　　your　conquests。　All　that　I　have　now　told　you　can　be　summed　up　in

　　two　words；　two　old…fashioned　words；　〃Noblesse　oblige。〃



　　Now　apply　these　precepts　to　the　management　of　life。　You　will　hear

　　many　persons　say　that　strategy　is　the　chief　element　of　success；

　　that　the　best　way　to　press　through　the　crowd　is　to　set　some　men

　　against　other　men　and　so　take　their　places。　That　was　a　good　system

　　for　the　Middle　Ages；　when　princes　had　to　destroy　their　rivals　by

　　pitting　one　against　the　other；　but　in　these　days；　all　things　being

　　done　in　open　day；　I　am　afraid　it　would　do　you　ill…service。　No；　you

　　must　meet　your　competitors　face　to　face；　be　they　loyal　and　true

　　men；　or　traitorous　enemies　whose　weapons　are　calumny；　evil…

　　speaking；　and　fraud。　But　remember　this；　you　have　no　more　powerful

　　auxiliaries　than　these　men　themselves；　they　are　their　own　enemies；

　　fight　them　with　honest　weapons；　and　sooner　or　later　they　are

　　condemned。　As　to　the　first　of　them；　loyal　men　and　true；　your

　　straightforwardness　will　obtain　their　respect；　and　the　differences

　　between　you　once　settled　（for　all　things　can　be　settled）；　these

　　men　will　serve　you。　Do　not　be　afraid　of　making　enemies；　woe　to　him

　　who　has　none　in　the　world　you　are　about　to　enter；　but　try　to　give

　　no　handle　for　ridicule　or　disparagement。　I　say　TRY；　for　in　Paris　a

　　man　cannot　always　belong　solely　to　himself；　he　is　sometimes　at　the

　　mercy　of　circumstances；　you　will　not　always　be　able　to　avoid　the

　　mud　in　the　gutter　nor　the　tile　that　falls　from　the　roof。　The　moral

　　world　has　gutters　where　persons　of　no　reputation　endeavor　to

　　splash　the　mud　in　which　they　live　upon　men　of　honor。　But　you　can

　　always　compel　respect　by　showing　that　you　are；　under　all

　　circumstances；　immovable　in　your　principles。　In　the　conflict　of

　　opinions；　in　the　midst　of　quarrels　and　cross…purposes；　go　straight

　　to　the　point；　keep　resolutely　to　the　question；　never　fight　except

　　for　the　essential　thing；　and　put　your　whole　strength　into　that。

　　You　know　how　Monsieur　de　Mortsauf　hates　Napoleon；　how　he　curses

　　him　and　pursues　him　as　justice　does　a　criminal；　demanding

　　punishment　day　and　night　for　the　death　of　the　Duc　d'Enghien；　the

　　only　death；　the　only　misfortune；　that　ever　brought　the　tears　to

　　his　eyes；　well；　he　nevertheless　admired　him　as　the　greatest　of

　　captains；　and　has　often　explained　to　me　his　strategy。　May　not　the

　　same　tactics　be　applied　to　the　war　of　human　interests；　they　would

　　economize　time　as　heretofore　they　economized　men　and　space。　Think

　　this　over；　for　as　a　woman　I　am　liable　to　be　mistaken　on　such

　　points　which　my　sex　judges　only　by　instinct　and　sentiment。　One

　　point；　however；　I　may　insist　on；　all　trickery；　all　deception；　is

　　certain　to　be　discovered　and　to　result　in　doing　harm；　whereas

　　every　situation　presents　less　danger　if　a　man　plants　himself

　　firmly　on　his　own　truthfulness。　If　I　may　cite　my　own　case；　I　can

　　tell　you　that；　obliged　as　I　am　by　Monsieur　de　Mortsauf's　condition

　　to　avoid　litigation　and　to　bring　to　an　immediate　settlement　all

　　difficulties　which　arise　in　the　management　of　Clochegourde；　and

　　which　would　otherwise　cause　him　an　excitement　under　which　his　mind

　　would　succumb；　I　have　invariably　settled　matters　promptly　by

　　taking　hold　of　the　knot　of　the　difficulty　and　saying　to　our

　　opponents：　〃We　will　either　untie　it　or　cut　it！〃



　　It　will　often　happen　that　you　do　a　service　to　others　and　find

　　yourself　ill…rewarded；　I　beg　you　not　to　imitate　those　who　complain

　　of　men　and　declare　them　to　be　all　ungrateful。　That　is　putting

　　themselves　on　a　pedestal　indeed！　and　surely　it　is　somewhat　silly

　　to　admit　their　lack　of　knowledge　of　the　world。　But　you；　I　trust；

　　will　not　do　good　as　a　usurer　lends　his　money；　you　will　do　itwill

　　you　not？for　good's　sake。　Noblesse　oblige。　Nevertheless；　do　not

　　bestow　such　services　as　to　force　others　to　ingratitude；　for　if　you

　　do；　they　will　become　your　most　implacable　enemies；　obligations

　　sometimes　lead　to　despair；　like　the　despair　of　ruin　itself；　which

　　is　capable　of　very　desperate　efforts。　As　for　yourself；　accept　as

　　little　as　you　can　from　others。　Be　no　man's　vassal；　and　bring

　　yourself　out　of　your　own　difficulties。



　　You　see；　dear　friend；　I　am　advising　you　only　on　the　lesser　points

　　of　life。　In　the　world　of　politics　things　wear　a　different　aspect；

　　the　rules　which　are　to　guide　your　individual　steps　give　way　before

　　the　national　interests。　If　you　reach　that　sphere　where　great　men

　　revolve　you　will　be；　like　God　himself；　the　sole　arbiter　of　your

　　determinations。　You　will　no　longer　be　a　man；　but　law；　the　living

　　law；　no　longer　an　individual；　you　are　then　the　Nation　incarnate。

　　But　remember　this；　though　you　judge；　you　will　yourself　be　judged；

　　hereafter　you　will　be　summoned　before　the　ages；　and　you　know

　　history　well　enough　to　be　fully　informed　as　to　what　deeds　and　wha